howdy dynamic thoughts
I was just thinking a little about Andy and Howard's dynamic and like... I guess the reason they're not "just friends" ...? Aside from the fact they like live together and cuddle and share the same bed much of the time lol. There's something about the way they've Always spoken to each other, since first meeting. I don't wanna generalise other male friendships too much but I do feel like there are a few concrete things that are different for Andy and Howard which are like.
- neither of them are straight so they're not talking about women they find attractive. I guess it also follows that they're both aroace (Andy unknowingly when they first met) so naturally they're not a) flirting or b) talking about Not Women that they find attractive either.
- neither have "typical" "masculine" hobbies like playing the whole yknow... call of duty... halo... type games; being gym bros; umm... cars? Again I'm not trying to put All Men in a box lmao people are individual and complex but this is from my experience of my male peers. Andy and Howard are kinda gender nonconforming!!!
- following from my last point, they actually don't talk about hobbies much i think. they also don't particularly gossip or discuss life updates, family stuff, etc., much. Well as time goes on, they talk about that kind of stuff to the extent that it's necessary of course... anyway. They talk about thoughts and concepts mainly. Meeting at 18 I do think they've really witnessed each other changing and growing because they talk about their views on things all the time. I do also think they talk about hobbies, somewhat, because Howard talks about cooking a lot lol. It's his Thing. Andy's Thing isn't so much just the one thing, but he probably talks about the thing of the moment pretty often. He probably doesn't always have a Thing, either. Sometimes he goes a little while without a Thing and it makes him feel sort of aimless. When I say thoughts and concepts I mean like... what's their opinion on people and dynamics, behaviours? It's mainly human-oriented. Theyre not talking about like nuclear physics or something lmao. It'll probably be sometimes connected to real people in their lives too, even just as a catalyst for the topic, or sometimes to work through interpersonal problems. Other times it'll be more just observing trends in people like therapy speak, the concept of making video essays, using AI, i dunno lmao. but anyway, mainly it'll start as "i saw this video/post/article the other day..." Not trying to make Andy and Howard sound super unique as if this isn't all pretty normal stuff for a (good) friendship. At least this is mainly how my friendships go. I guess it just got me thinking because, I'm not a man -- I wasn't socialised as a man -- and from my limited observations of what goes on in male friendships, they're a little different. but I'm mainly thinking of one type of guy so maybe i'm really generalising here. Regardless it was just a starting point for this thought. Their friendship is much like my close friendships, except they do that other stuff too lol.